when I heard that old familiar music start
It's the offseason. I went on a European vacation. Nothing is happening in baseball. I'm working on the media guide. I get back to my desk about 5:10, and my phone's message light is blinking. I debate whether to listen or not. It's Friday afternoon. I check the message.
It's NSG. WHAT???
It turns out he's flying through the Memphis airport, right now, and he says call him if I get this message. I sit in stunned silence staring straight ahead for a minute, because I haven’t talked to him since January and haven't even heard from him since, I don't know, March, and that had, you know, UPSET ME. Then, of course, I call him.
NSG: I’m flying back home. I was in Little Rock to talk to some people about environmental policy. That’s what I do now; I’m a tree-hugger.
M: Really?
NSG: No, not really. I mean, the environmental policy, that’s what I’ve been doing in school, but I don’t know. I don’t know if that’s what I ultimately want to do.
M: So, if you’re a tree-hugger now, is your hair long?
NSG: Ah, no. No. I’m not a tree-hugger. So how’s Memphis?
M: Eh, it’s all right. I don’t like it, but I like my job enough for now, so it doesn’t matter.
NSG: Do you go on trips, drive places? Like Nashville?
M: Yeah, I’ve been to Nashville.
NSG: And Jackson, that’s a nice city. It’s interesting, how different the four major cities in Tennessee are. Well, five, I guess, if you count Johnson City. My sister really likes Chattanooga. I didn’t think she would, but she’s been living there for 20 years now, so I guess it’s good. ... What’s [Roommate] up to?
M: Well, she dug her heels in, and I guess she’s not leaving.
NSG: Hah. Yeah. What does she want to stay around for? I mean, you can’t beat this year. Well, I guess you could, but they couldn’t have done anything differently. Except not to throw those pitches to Pujols and Rolen. I was just screaming at the TV in Game 7. I really like Phil because he went to Tennessee and all, but a double switch? And then Clemens was tired, and he left him in. And then Rolen hit the ball out past the Arch. ... I really thought we were going to win. ... Did you see there was an article on the Tar Heels in the New York Times? It was about that kid, the troublemaker, McCants, if he can control himself, then they’ll be good. You’d like it. You should read it. ... I saw your [European vacation] pictures. Thanks for sending me those. I haven’t gone through them all. There were only like a thousand.
He gets to his gate. "Okay, my flight leaves at 7:20..." He starts talking to the gate agent, who tells him he should make the flight. He returns to our conversation but seems content to just chat, as if we’ve been in regular contact for the last eight months WHICH WE HAVE NOT. He is good at this sort of thing.
M: So, your flight leaves at 7:20? Do you want me to come down there?
NSG: Can you make it? How close are you?
M: It’s probably 10 minutes away. Well, 15, with traffic.
NSG: I didn’t think you’d still be in the office.
M: All right, so I’ll just meet you out front?
NSG: Yeah. I’ll wait for you. What do you look like?
M: You just saw pictures of me!
NSG: I was kidding. You always fall for that.
At the airport, he looks all businesslike, wearing a navy suit with a light blue (not quite Carolina blue, though, ha) shirt, and a striped tie. He is not wearing the suit jacket, and his sleeves are rolled up, and his shirt is almost untucked, and you can tell he’s been running his hand through his hair, which is, in fact, short. And he’s NSG. He spots me as I’m walking up so he takes a few steps toward me, and then we meet in the middle, and he hugs me, which is wonderful, because that man gives good hug. We sit down. I am freaking out inside because all those things I loved about him, his eyes, and his hands, oh my God, his hands, they are still doing it for me. I have my hand resting on the back of the seat, and then his hand touches mine, and he looks down at it, and then he clamps his hand over mine and squeezes. Aww. Like old times! Then he sighs and says, "Molly Darnofall..." and have I mentioned that I am never, ever, going to get over this man?
NSG: Molly, I almost missed you. I almost missed you. (Huh?) ... Your hair looks good.
M: Thanks. You’re all dressed up. You’re a jetsetter now.
NSG: A jetsetter. Yeah. ... So what are you doing, at work? What are you working on now?
M: The media guide and the yearbook. Mostly the media guide, right now.
NSG: And when are you editing the Astros’?
M: Well, I did last year’s...let me see...at the College Classic, so...
NSG: So give me some gossip.
M: I don’t know any. I don’t live there anymore.
NSG: I know you and [Roommate] talk.
M: She doesn’t gossip!
NSG: Well, that’s true. I can’t believe you don’t know any gossip.
M: Do you stay in touch with anybody?
NSG: Obviously not.
M: Well, you called me.
NSG: I did call you. ... No, I don’t talk to anybody. ... [Friend] e-mailed me not too long ago and told me that [Ticket Guy] got married.
M: Oh yeah, I did know about that. [Roommate] said she went to that wedding and felt like the only person she could talk to was [Friend's GF, now wife].
NSG: What? K didn’t go?
M: I don’t know. I guess not.
NSG: Yeah, I haven’t talked to her in a while. We haven’t been friends since January.
M: Why not?
NSG: (hesitates) Long story.
M: (doesn’t ask. I like to pretend I’m over all this, which is naturally why I have gone home and written down THE ENTIRE CONVERSATION.)
NSG: So, has [Roommate] had a serious boyfriend since she and [Crush] almost got together? I hear him on the radio sometimes.
M: No, she hasn’t.
NSG: Were they ever really together?
M: No, they did that "I like you but I don’t know what to do about it" thing. I’m trying to get her to move to New York to be with him.
NSG: I want to move to New York. That’s my thing now.
M: I can’t picture you living in New York.
NSG: I’ve been up there like seven times this year.
M: So what’s the deal here? Why are you flying around all these places to talk to people?
NSG: I’m trying to get out there and talk to people and figure things out. It’s just that I don’t know anybody, I don’t have any contacts. I should hook up with [Crush].
M: Yeah, I don’t think the two of you would make a good couple.
NSG: I could be gay for a couple of days.
M: Yeah, no.
NSG: You don’t have any gossip? I’m so disappointed. Nobody’s having an affair?
M: Not that I know of. [Friend] picked us up from the airport, and we were telling him about our trip, and he cut us off to tell us that his cat is sick. So the cat is sick. That’s all I know.
NSG: Was it your first trip to Europe?
M: Yeah, my first time. I think we tried to do too much. But it was great.
NSG: I went to Europe with a basketball team once. I’m going to go back, this summer. If I don’t get a job. To London. And maybe France. And Italy. Travel is all I want to do. ... You know, I didn’t think I’d get to this point in my life and not be employed for a year and a half. But, I mean, I don’t know what I want to do. I go through phases. After the thing in March, I didn’t do anything. I didn’t send out anything. I didn’t call anybody. I did nothing. All I do is watch independent movies. ... So, [Sparky] is still with the Astros?
M: Yeah he’s still doing business stuff. I get all the press releases he writes, and they’re all from media relations.
NSG: [Sparky.] I hadn’t thought about him in a long time. Until I heard your voice, actually. I don’t know what that means, exactly. Would you go back there? Do you miss Houston?
M: I miss certain things about it.
NSG: Me too. Like how I finally liked the city again. I had moved back downtown, and I liked it. (He asks about the new hires and interns.) I did good with my interns. Well, I was two-for-three.
M: And then there was me.
NSG: (all serious, and I was kidding) No. You were 1. [Bilingual male intern he hired after me] was 1-A. That kid must be really smart. To work for [his department]. He was even less organized than me. It must be totally different. [VPs] must be ecstatic. Would you work in St. Louis? [Director], my God, I saw him right behind LaRussa in the playoffs and I just went, You have got to be shitting me. He cannot be standing there, the WHOLE TIME.
M: That’s funny. That’s the same thing [Roommate] said. ... It would be weird to go back and work for the Astros now. It’s all different there. There would be a whole lot of people that I didn’t know.
NSG: So, Memphis. The Liberty Bowl. That was where I saw my first sporting event. When I was five years old. You don’t like it here? My mother never liked it, and she grew up two hours from here. You could go up to Martin, if you wanted something to do...it’s a nice area...if you like trees.
M: There’s a sign, on I-40 on the way to Nashville, it’s the exit for Tennessee-Martin, and I think of you every time I pass it.
NSG: You know, I think I’m going to stop paying attention to all sports. I don’t know anything about baseball anymore.
M: That can’t be true. You can’t just have forgotten all those years.
NSG: Well, no, but I mean the stuff that’s going on now.
M: Why would you want to not have anything to do with sports? I can’t fathom that.
NSG: I could have a life. I could have fun. Start playing golf again. ... Well, I think that I’ll get out entirely, but then sometimes I think that one day I’ll get back into it, I’ll just do it, and I’ll be the SID at Texas Western University. I don’t know.
M: I don’t think you’ll be the SID at Texas Western University.
M: You should come visit Memphis. You could see the Redbirds...
NSG: Yeah, right, the Redbirds.
M: ...and me.
NSG: I would come visit you. So, in Triple-A, do you get to know the players?
M: Well, the ones that stayed all year I got to know. It’s funny to see what happens with the guys, because they all stop when they see me coming, and they won’t drop f-bombs in front of me. Well, the guys who know me will, but…
NSG: That is so minor league. They do that?
M: Oh yeah. It’s great, too, because even some of our TV people, they’re like, "Oh, you can’t go in the clubhouse, can you?" In New Orleans, one of our guys forgot his bag, so I had to take it down to the clubhouse, so I asked their radio guy – do you know him? – how to get down to the clubhouse, and he was like, "Oh no, I’ll take it, don’t worry." And I said no, you know, I was going to go down to BP anyway, so he went down and showed me where it was, but he stopped outside the door and he said, "I don’t know if you should go in there. You know, they might be naked."
NSG: Yeah, they might be. Oh my God. If he ever wants to get to the Majors, he better understand that it’s different up there. Have you thought about going somewhere else, you know, where you wouldn’t feel weird about being a girl?
M: Oh, I don’t feel weird. They feel weird. ... It does help things some, being a girl.
NSG: ...And you are a girl. (he looks at me sideways)
M: I am a girl.
NSG: Do you get to go on the road?
M: I went to New Orleans and Nashville. The team doesn't send me on the road though.
NSG: Well, it sounds like things are going good for you. What do you think you’ll do next? Do you want to make it back to the Majors?
M: (sighs) I don’t know anymore. I used to know, but now I don’t.
NSG: That makes two of us.
M: You know it’s all your fault that I’m here.
NSG: It is not.
M: It was because of you that I stayed in sports. If you hadn’t been there…
NSG: Whatever. ... Well, I wish I didn’t have to go, but...
He squeezes my hand, then hugs me, tucking his chin against my neck. I melt.
NSG: Send [Roommate] an e-mail and tell her you saw me. Tell her I said hi.
M: Do you ever talk to her?
NSG: (screws up his face) Uh...no. I e-mail her every once in a while. She got me an autograph for a friend of mine. She actually got me a Clemens autograph.
M: Oh. So you do still rate.
NSG: Hah. No, no I don’t. It’s just, that whole thing...what happened was just weird. And it was a long time ago, it’s been such a long time...
M: I still e-mail you.
NSG: I know. I never have anything to say. ... Come here, give me another hug. Miss you. Love you.
M: Don’t be a stranger.
NSG: I am a stranger.
M: I know, and I don’t like it.
He goes into the security line and I yell "Merry Christmas!" and he says, without looking back, "Happy Hanukkah" which makes me laugh, and then he inexplicably smacks his ass and says, "Go Heels!" which makes me laugh again. And then he’s gone.
Posted by Molly
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